What is Self Respect?

What is Self Respect?

Not caring about clarifying yourself each time is self respect.

Shutting up when someone doesn't let you make a point, inspite of you lending a patient hearing to them, is self respect.

Ignoring a source of constant nuisance and, increasing your tolerance level in that regard,  is self respect.

Raising your head high and smiling each time a challenge occurs is self respect.

Walking off when the conversation is about to turn ugly is self respect.

Caring a heck about the world when it comes down to doing what is right is self respect.

Letting go of companionship and being alone at times is self respect.

Feeling the power within yourself that you need not succumb to the same status quo and thereby feel pity on yourself. is self respect.

Self Respect is a feeling which comes when you take charge of your own emotions. Hold yourself up and feel happy. Feel that life is under control. And you can do it. You can survive, rise up and lead.....

Be yourself

So you believe in confrontation. And yet you wonder why things are not working out.
You console yourself by telling, atleast I am not a hypocrite.
Either this or.......
You are philosophical.  You believe in your values and you think you are taking a high road. You try to be an example for others by suppressing your emotions or letting them go of their misbehaviour.

Whatever the case, you are still wondering, why things are not working out.
Well, the point is you are proud of being yourself. You just need to find the solution of your problems, which apparently keep recurring.

Its time you realize, theres nothing wrong in being yourself. You just need to be politically correct.

How do u do that? Read along.......


Politics in Relationships, Sounds scary, Right?
Well, it isn't so. Not as much as U might think.
Actually, relationships....- be it friendship, marriage,  co-workers etc...is full of politics.
No Matter how much you evade the existence, the fact of the matter is-it exists.
 So if ever you want to enrich your relationship quotient, just follow some rules:

1. Feel successful. Its the best way to send signals you are influential.
    
2. Be modest yet make tough calls. If you feel, someone's bothering you, don't shy away from secluding yourself with his companionship. Master an art of doing it. For eg, the other person happens to wish you good morning, just revert back by tellling, "Uh Oh! I didnt notice you, good morning".

3. Never be detailed. Don't lay your burden of getting understood on others. The only one person who can understand you is you yourself. Let it be on that.

4. Time of Crisis: Don't be quiet. Seek, speak out, explain, elaborate, assert, do whatever but give yourself a platform. Life won't come to you ask you your say, sometimes, and MIND WELL only sometimes, you have to make it clear to the world your say. Now, upon this how other will react is up-to them. But you shouldn't have any regrets in your life.

5. Yet, again, remember, people change. They change. I was a smug myself until I was introduced to the word itself, but now i am not. I am ready to tread cautiously. Likewise, people exhibit behaviour out of their own ignorance, insecurity and upbringing.

6. Life is full of knowledge. Knowledgeable, motivated and hard working people often land up having a content lifestyle.
So take this Blog as a drop of knowledge.
Motivate yourself to try these tricks in relationships
and work hard to make things happen.

The Best way to Handle Disrespect

Step 1: Don't Ignore it!

Irrespective of what others have to say. Just DON'T ignore it. Accept and acknowledge to your self that you have been disrespected by someone.

The best way to handle disrespect is to handle your own perception of the situation. The moment you would realize that you deserve to be treated fairly and in a respectful way, you would be sending convincing signals to all the people around that you respect yourself. And you do it irrespective of your mistakes, deeds, flaws, doubts, ...YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.

Other alternatives to handle disrespect:
Take a High Road: 
It is easy to Shirk away the experience or situation by thinking that its not related to you at all. The cause of the disrespect can be anything like;

• Their misunderstanding towards you
• Their own Bias towards you
• Their own lack of education or sensibility to handle the disagreement
• Their political agenda
• Their Age

ETC.

If you take a high road would you survive the series of these experiences called DISRESPECT or INSULT coming from different sources?
The answer is No. You should not tackle Disrespect on a HIGH Road basis. Instead accept and acknowledge bravely and maturely that you have been disrespected.

Believe me, I have been having the High Road way of handling disrespect and what came my way is a
Silent embarrassment of my own self,
a subtle programming of my self  as I am the one who is entitled to such insult, abuse or disrespect
A subtle questioning to my own soul: Am I suppose to take all of this?

I personally don't think taking a High Road is a solution to handle disrespect.

Instead:
Stand Up!
Say NO to disrespect!
Don't Ignore!
Be in Charge!

By being in charge doesn't mean that insulting others back. But it does mean, refuse to be treated in a disrespectful way. Be it a child, adult, elderly....

• Walk off.
• Talk Back
• Discuss
• Debate (don't argue).
• Never say Sorry just to calm down the situation.
• Just don't give in.

And the final most important thing, don' t judge yourself. You might have done something which would have been wrong, kiddish or bullish. But we are humans.
Unless and until you did it deliberately, on purpose, you don't deserve this.
Any relationship, status, job, profile, situation, circumstance doesn't qualify you to be treated in a disrespectful way.

An understanding of this fact of the matter will relieve lot of tensions.

• You are Imperfect. But you deserve to be loved. You have flaws that need to be corrected, as the others may say. But you still are lovable. 

• You might have done something which was not up to the mark. Yet, you carry self respect. 
• You might have conducted yourself in a disapproving manner in society but that's what you are. You did the best.

 I would like to repeat: Unless and Until you did it on purpose, nothing qualifies you to be treated in a disrespectful manner.