Step 1: Don't Ignore it!
Irrespective of what others have to say. Just DON'T ignore it. Accept and acknowledge to your self that you have been disrespected by someone.
The best way to handle disrespect is to handle your own perception of the situation. The moment you would realize that you deserve to be treated fairly and in a respectful way, you would be sending convincing signals to all the people around that you respect yourself. And you do it irrespective of your mistakes, deeds, flaws, doubts, ...YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.
Other alternatives to handle disrespect:
Take a High Road:
It is easy to Shirk away the experience or situation by thinking that its not related to you at all. The cause of the disrespect can be anything like;
If you take a high road would you survive the series of these experiences called DISRESPECT or INSULT coming from different sources?
The answer is No. You should not tackle Disrespect on a HIGH Road basis. Instead accept and acknowledge bravely and maturely that you have been disrespected.
Believe me, I have been having the High Road way of handling disrespect and what came my way is a
Silent embarrassment of my own self,
a subtle programming of my self as I am the one who is entitled to such insult, abuse or disrespect
A subtle questioning to my own soul: Am I suppose to take all of this?
I personally don't think taking a High Road is a solution to handle disrespect.
Instead:
Stand Up!
Say NO to disrespect!
Don't Ignore!
Be in Charge!
By being in charge doesn't mean that insulting others back. But it does mean, refuse to be treated in a disrespectful way. Be it a child, adult, elderly....
And the final most important thing, don' t judge yourself. You might have done something which would have been wrong, kiddish or bullish. But we are humans.
Unless and until you did it deliberately, on purpose, you don't deserve this.
Any relationship, status, job, profile, situation, circumstance doesn't qualify you to be treated in a disrespectful way.
An understanding of this fact of the matter will relieve lot of tensions.
Irrespective of what others have to say. Just DON'T ignore it. Accept and acknowledge to your self that you have been disrespected by someone.
The best way to handle disrespect is to handle your own perception of the situation. The moment you would realize that you deserve to be treated fairly and in a respectful way, you would be sending convincing signals to all the people around that you respect yourself. And you do it irrespective of your mistakes, deeds, flaws, doubts, ...YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.
Other alternatives to handle disrespect:
Take a High Road:
It is easy to Shirk away the experience or situation by thinking that its not related to you at all. The cause of the disrespect can be anything like;
- Their misunderstanding towards you
- Their own Bias towards you
- Their own lack of education or sensibility to handle the disagreement
- Their political agenda
- Their Age
If you take a high road would you survive the series of these experiences called DISRESPECT or INSULT coming from different sources?
The answer is No. You should not tackle Disrespect on a HIGH Road basis. Instead accept and acknowledge bravely and maturely that you have been disrespected.
Believe me, I have been having the High Road way of handling disrespect and what came my way is a
Silent embarrassment of my own self,
a subtle programming of my self as I am the one who is entitled to such insult, abuse or disrespect
A subtle questioning to my own soul: Am I suppose to take all of this?
I personally don't think taking a High Road is a solution to handle disrespect.
Instead:
Stand Up!
Say NO to disrespect!
Don't Ignore!
Be in Charge!
By being in charge doesn't mean that insulting others back. But it does mean, refuse to be treated in a disrespectful way. Be it a child, adult, elderly....
- Walk off.
- Talk Back
- Discuss
- Debate (don't argue).
- Never say Sorry just to calm down the situation.
- Just don't give in.
And the final most important thing, don' t judge yourself. You might have done something which would have been wrong, kiddish or bullish. But we are humans.
Unless and until you did it deliberately, on purpose, you don't deserve this.
Any relationship, status, job, profile, situation, circumstance doesn't qualify you to be treated in a disrespectful way.
An understanding of this fact of the matter will relieve lot of tensions.
- You are Imperfect. But you deserve to be loved. You have flaws that need to be corrected, as the others may say. But you still are lovable.
- You might have done something which was not up to the mark. Yet, you carry self respect.
- You might have conducted yourself in a disapproving manner in society but that's what you are. You did the best.
good one..
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